The Golden Bachelorette: Pascal's "Stalker" Comment About Chock (& 7 Other Shocking Scandals That Are Ruining The Show's Reputation) SPOILERS

The Golden Bachelorette stars are acting out, and their most shocking scandals, including Pascal Ibgui describing Chock Chapple as a "stalker" in a Glamour interview, are tarnishing the show's legacy. These cast members are older, so viewers might expect maturity. However, the show is proving that older people can behave badly too. They can be clout chasers or rude jerks or crass clowns, just like everyone else. While The Golden Bachelorette is opening minds in a sense, the misdeeds of its cast members may end up turning people off.

The Golden Bachelorette seemed so heartfelt at first. Cast members, including Joan, have moving backstories. They've lost partners to cancer or for other reasons. They've faced life after the very worst happened. A lot of people haven't really faced the worst. They haven't stared death in the face, watching treasured loved ones slip away. Yes, that happens to younger people too, but on The Golden Bachelor and The Golden Bachelorette, many cast members have lost what's most precious. The cast members have lived, and their journeys have featured some wrenching moments. So, when they don't act like adults, it's jarring.

8Pascal Ibgui Went Low By Calling Chock Chapple A Stalker

What Was Pascal Thinking?

As previously mentioned, Pascal decided to verbally attack another suitor, describing Chock as a:

stalker

This is a strong term, and Pascal aimed the insult at Chock because he stayed so close to Joan while they all filmed the show. A real stalker will become obsessed with their victim, thinking about them all the time. They typically go further, establishing patterns of unwanted contact with victims. For example, a stalker might repeatedly call someone, or text them, even using aliases. They might hack a person's devices to gather information, keep tabs on them, and cause trouble.

Stalking is a serious thing and not a term that should be applied to someone who isn't a true stalker. Some real stalkers kill people. Others try to ruin their victim's lives. Rape, identity theft, online smear campaigns... these are the types of things that real stalkers do. Some are violent and some aren't, but all are mean-spirited, as stalking crosses an important boundary, robbing someone of their right to privacy.

So, Chock doesn't deserve this label. It's a dating competition, and he wasn't doing anything wrong by staying close to Joan, even if it creeped Pascal out. What would be wrong is to be told to stay away and not listen.

7Joan Eliminated Mark Anderson

He Is Such A Nice Guy

A lot of people were rooting for Mark Anderson on the show. He's The Bachelor season 28 star Kelsey Anderson's father, and she adores him. He's got a warm and cuddly vibe, even though he used to be a military policeman. There's something endearing about Mark that made his star rise. People respond to him, and they have since he appeared during Kelsey's hometown dates with Joey Graziadei. However, Joan didn't fall under his spell.

When she eliminated Mark, he probably felt terrible. This man is still pining for the woman he lost - his late wife, Denise Anderson. No one will ever compare, but he is trying to move on. After his wife passed away, Mark raised five children on his own. He had so much on his plate. Hopefully, if Mark's cast as The Golden Bachelor, he'll be able to find a better match. Some women might have chosen Mark if they were cast as The Golden Bachelorette, but Joan seems to prefer Chock's super-confident persona to Mark's vulnerability.

6Joan's Possible Gold Digging With Chock

Is She Seeing Dollar Signs?

Chock is seemingly wealthy. Above, he lounges in a pink blazer that looks pricey, wearing "rich guy" loafers without socks. This type of look is so Vanity Fair. It's kind of a preppy, moneyed vibe. There's nothing wrong with having money, especially if it's been hard-earned, and Chock worked hard to earn every penny. That's why he deserves to enjoy any money that he has. However, the fact that he flaunted an expensive property that he was selling online, and generally makes the fact that he has a comfortable lifestyle public, may be drawing Joan in.

According to Reality Steve, Joan's rumored to pick Chock in the final The Golden Bachelorette episode. Is his well-heeled lifestyle the reason why? One never knows for sure. People don't usually advertise such base and greedy motives. However, if Joan is attracted to his money, she definitely wouldn't be the first reality star who's seen dollar signs, and she won't be the last.

5Pascal Accused Producers Of Interference

He's A Rebellious Reality Star

Pascal is opening up about his experience on the show, and says that he felt pressured to end his relationship with Joan while he was being filmed. He says he feels bad about hurting her so much. After he ended things, she felt unworthy of love, which is really sad. That definitely shows the downside of being on one of these shows. There is a shadow side, where people become truly emotionally invested, and then suffer when their feelings aren't reciprocated.

Joan is certainly worthy of love, and it may be good that Pascal's being so honest. Why shouldn't he share his feelings? However, producers may not agree that they pressured him into dumping a woman. It would be highly unusual for producers to own up to this kind of awful behavior. It's something that would likely be concealed if possible, or just denied.

4Chock Is Controlling On The Series

He May Go Too Far

Chock always wants to be close to Joan when the cameras roll - hopefully, if she does choose him, he'll continue to be so smitten with her. However, some alarm bells are going off in terms of his conduct with her. On the bowling date, which was a group date, Pascal felt like Chock monopolized all of her time, and Pascal was offended by it. He thought that Chock was acting like a stalker.

Joan seems to disagree. She appears to love the way that Chock treats her. In the future, once they're more used to one another, all of that may change. If they hit some turbulence, Joan may find that all that closeness with Chock is cloying. She may find ways to put emotional distance between them. That might be a healthy decision. They're no reason why they should remain together if she isn't happy. Right now, Joan probably interprets Chock's attentiveness as passionate love. Hopefully, it really is.

3Mark Anderson Dated Right After His Elimination

Well, It's A Rumored Romance With A Fun Fairytale Twist

Mark was spotted with Barbara Woods of One Tree Hill fame on Halloween. Both were dressed in Disney costumes and they looked amazing. He was Prince Charming and she was Cinderella. While they just seem friendly right now, it's quite possible that they're dating. Both were proud to post their photos online for the whole world to see.

If Mark's dating Barbara, he moved on very quickly. He basically found someone else as soon as he was off he show. In fact, it almost seems like a publicity stunt, as the Halloween photos came very shortly after his elimination episode. Is Mark doing damage control? Possibly, but then again, it's harmless, right? He can see whomever he chooses - he doesn't belong to Joan or the public. He's his own person and will always be. Mark has endured a lot and shouldn't base his life on what people think of him. Some of them may be worse human beings than he is.

2Joan Had A Wardrobe Malfunction

Her Undergarment Started Slipping

Joan recently talked about an embarrassing wardrobe malfunction that left her feeling uncomfortable as she was filmed. It was hot and she was wearing pads under her strapless dress. They were like a bra - on each breast, there was a pad that offered support. When the temperature rose, one of the pads began to slip.

This sort of underscores the pressure that Joan is under. She's supposed to look perfect at all times, and act perfect. No one can he perfect every day and night - nobody is. So, anyone who calls her out for her imperfect words, actions and appearance may not be so immaculate themselves. It's just that they don't see themselves clearly. Ths humanizing moment isn't necessarily great for the show because it illustrates how superficial The Golden Bachelorette can be. It's possibly no deeper than any other reality show.

1Joan May Be Picking The Wrong Man

She Could Be Making A Mistake With Chock

Via Bachelor Nation at YouTube, Joan went on a bowling date with Chock and other men, and he seemed a bit controlling. However, he's rumored to put a ring on her finger, as previously mentioned. If this is the case, Joan may be getting played. His attentiveness could be a ruse - something that will help him to win the game. He might want to be the man who's chosen, but not really love his partner. Such is the danger of filming this kind of show.

Only time will tell if Joan chooses well. She could fumble and end up divorced like Gerry and Theresa. In terms of her choice, she could throw a gutter ball and strike out. So, it's easy to wish The Golden Bachelorette star well - however, the odds of finding true love at her age aren't strong.