When The Bachelor season 29's Carolina Sofia confessed to the other women that she thought that she didn't know Grant Ellis well enough to get engaged to him after one date, some of them thought that she was being ungrateful, but I completely agree with her that the timeline of the show is way too fast to end in a proposal. During episode 4, Carolina told the group about her concerns, which I thought were completely valid, but Juliana Pasquarosa took particular offense to them because she hadn't had a one-on-one date with Grant yet.
Juliana told Carolina that if she felt unsure, then she'd leave. She later told Grant that Carolina was being nothing but negative. However, when Grant confronted Carolina about it, she explained that she had concerns because she was taking the process seriously. Dina later defended Carolina, but this didn't sway the other women's opinions about her. Although it's understandable that they feel that she's being ungrateful, especially if they haven't had The Bachelor season 29 one-on-one dates yet, I think that Carolina is absolutely right that it's too soon for any of them to be considering getting engaged to Grant.
Carolina Is Right That Grant Doesn't Know Any Of The Women Well Enough To Get Engaged
Some Of The Women Haven't Even Had One-On-One Dates
Grant had only known his Bachelor women for about a month when Carolina expressed her concerns about getting engaged after just one date. I found it laughable that Juliana, who's never had a one-on-one date, was the one who took the most issue with Carolina's statement. It didn't seem possible to me that her whole heart could be in her relationship with Grant, when they'd never spent any significant alone time together.
I believe that if Grant didn't choose a woman for a one-on-one date by this point, then his interest lies elsewhere. Because Carolina was chosen for the second one-on-one date, she seems to have a better chance of making it to the end with Grant than someone like Juliana or Zoe McGrady, who hasn't had that alone time either. However, even after that one date, Carolina and Grant need a lot more time together before they should even be thinking about getting engaged.
Grant's Season Is Already Up To The Hometown Dates
The Bachelor Timeline Is Way Too Fast
As Grant approaches choosing the women whose families he'll meet during his hometown dates, it's unbelievable to me how little time he's actually spent with them. I think that Carolina is absolutely right that The Bachelor timeline is way too fast. I agree with her that people who take the process seriously would have concerns, while women who declare that they're ready to get married on premiere night would fall in love with anyone who was the Bachelor, but it wouldn't actually be real.
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In addition, in real life, most people don't introduce their families to their significant others after just one date because that date might not lead to a serious relationship. And, they most certainly don't usually ask for their partner's blessing to propose after just one date, but that's exactly what Grant might do when he meets the women's families. Adding to the insanity, he'll potentially be asking for four different women's hands in marriage on the four hometown dates. I feel that if the women aren't concerned about this, then they should be.
The Bachelor Has A Dismal Track Record For Lasting Relationships
Only 3 Out Of 28 Couples Are Still Together
Although The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise have better success rates, The Bachelor's track record is dismal. Only three out of the past 28 couples who got engaged or left the show in a relationship are still together, following the January 2025 breakup of Bachelor season 25 couple Matt James and Rachael Kirkconnell. The couples who are still together are The Bachelor season 17 married couple Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici and engaged couples The Bachelor season 27's Zach Shallcross and Kaity Biggar and The Bachelor season 28's Joey Graziadei and Kelsey Anderson.
However, it's not at all shocking to me that there are only three Bachelor couples who've lasted. I actually think it's surprising that any of the relationships lasted, considering how the couples barely knew each other before their proposals. The odds are stacked against Grant and whomever he chooses, and, although I hope that he finds love, I know that it's rare for The Bachelor. Carolina obviously knew this too, which is why she had reservations about getting engaged to Grant so soon.
Although Carolina was attacked by the other women for expressing concerns about getting engaged to Grant so quickly, I think that she's completely right. She might've known what she signed up for when she joined The Bachelor, but no one could predict how they'd really feel about it until they experienced it firsthand. I feel bad for Carolina because she doesn't have anyone else to talk to because of how the show isolates the contestants. Hopefully, Carolina will be able to get past her feelings so that she and Grant can continue to pursue their relationship during The Bachelor season 29.
