The Golden Bachelorette star Chock Chapple is rumored to be Joan Vassos' final pick, based on spoilers from Reality Steve, but he fits some characteristics of a sketchy partner, and Chock may even be a player. At this stage, Joan's had the chance to assess the personalities of a range of men. She has analyzed them carefully, looking at the pros and cons. She seems to prefer Chock, a well-to-do insurance maven who's a proud father.
While Chock seems like a great catch, certain clues paint a darker picture. If she's ignoring red flags, she could be in for heartbreak down the line.
Gerry Turner seemed amazing at first. On The Golden Bachelor, the suntanned septuagenarian was an endearing presence - a man who appeared to be a decent human being. However, when the dust settled, Gerry seemed like a different man. He bailed out on his marriage in no time flat, unwilling to leave his beloved Indiana to live with Theresa Nist. Their marriage ended after only a few months, and Gerry began to show off his "happier than ever" post-split life on Instagram. Soon enough, Joan may find that her Prince Charming turns into a frog.
Chock's Love Bombing Joan
Is He Really So Smitten?
Love bombing is not good. When someone lays it on really thick, they may be playing a part. Yes, now and then, people do fall madly in love - they express their emotions as much as they can, and as passionately as they can. However, Chock, who's used to selling himself thanks to his insurance industry experience, may actually be using "hard sell" techniques to convince her that he's the ultimate dream man.
Hard sell isn't so different from love bombing. When a man love bombs a woman, he overdoes it to razzle-dazzle her. Once her brain is scrambled by the "ultra romance," she's remarkably malleable. This means that a bewitched female may be open to making spectacularly bad decisions, such as rushing into marriage with someone who's basically a complete stranger.
If Type-A Chock's just trying to "win" on the show, she's in trouble. Love should be about sharing, rather than a way for a man to feel like he's winning at life. So, Joan should consider the fact that the sort of romance that plays out while the cameras roll is a little different... well, a lot different. It's much more likely to have a "theater" component.
Chock's Control Issues Are Clear Warning Signs
He Wants All Her Attention
Chock, who is making chicken soup online to get likes and comments, as seen above, has been doing all he can to set himself apart from the other suitors. He's super-attentive but wants all of her attention in return. In time, she may feel stifled by this kind of monitoring.
Most people want freedom - they want mental and physical liberty! The ability to roam, in terms of thoughts and exploring the world, is extremely important. It could be argued that a man who wants every bit of his partner's mind, body and soul is trying to control her.
Control is often an illusion. A person may do what they're "supposed to" but inwardly rebel. If they do, are they still under control? People are complex, and most of them need a little space. If Joan wants to give attention to Chock, but also others, it may cause problems.
She's very devoted to her family, and it's likely that most of her attention will always go there. So, this could cause issues for the duo.
As well, the seasoned and crafty womanizer knows that commanding all of a woman's attention makes it harder for her to step out of the relationship. However, he may not be as committed as he seems. Some players love bomb an array of females at once - they may even use the same lines to reel them in.
The issue is that they can be spinning a host of plates simultaneously, asking each female in the rotation to give them "everything." So, this focus on grabbing a woman's attention, every day and night, may actually be the sign of a cheater. Whatever it means, Chock may be trying too hard. They haven't known each other for very long. Chock could be too good to be true.
He's Trying To Isolate Joan From Other Suitors
Is This About Love Or Power?
It's a fine line between love and hate. There's also a fine line between love and a power trip. When Chock, as per the thegoldenbacheloretteabc clip shown above, tries to isolate Joan, sealing her off from other suitors, as he did when he sat "thisclose" to her during the group bowling date, he may feel powerful, but is he in love? It's really hard to say for sure.
Again, the idea of "winning" a reality dating series competition may be driving a lot of his behavior. By cutting her off from the herd, Chock may feel like the King of the Jungle.
Romance is a gamble and that's the fun of it. If the outcome was guaranteed, the game wouldn't be so fun to play. It's about anticipation. Sometimes, the waiting and wondering and the curiosity and emotion lead to real love connections. At other times, the investment (energy, time, and general "caring") just doesn't pay off. Right now, Joan thinks Chock's amazing, but people can turn on a dime. When they do, they may not ever be who they were before.
If Chock's playing Joan, she'll figure it out as she goes along, and when she finally gets it, she may freeze out the man who seemed so perfect on The Golden Bachelorette. Then, it could herald the beginning of another disastrous post-show relationship. After the camera crew goes away, real life begins, and people aren't perfect. They will relax out of the spotlight and eventually show their partners their dark sides. This is why so many Bachelor Nation romances don't go the distance.
The Golden Bachelorette airs Wednesdays at 8 p.m. EST on ABC.
